Moving (out)

My flatmate A and I had a sort of "fall out" so decided to move out of the 2-bedroom apartment we've been sharing for a year.




The problem?




Her boyfriend. The "very much married to someone else" boyfriend, who is so controlling of her, that she has to chose who comes over to the house and watch what she does with her time,etc..! She, a 27-year old with complete faculties, has to keep her eye on her bf's financial carrot-and-sticks. And sometimes I hate her for it. There must be other options, I'm sure. I don't want to impose on her my views on the matter because I have my own imperfections, too (who doesn't?), but I feel that I can't just watch and be silent any longer. I've asked her a hundred times why is she staying in a relationship like that. A relationship based on control and mistrust but she just answered that one gets used to it with time.




One might think, "So what if he was a Mr. Right that became Mr. Always Right? He's not your issue!".




But he is. He is. Because he is putting constraints on me, too. He gets angry if MY bf visits, or if I stay out late, or if I'm at the house and he wants to get lovey-dovey with her. Hello! This is an apartment, get into a motel! He doesn't confront me, but pressures Ann by being verbally vicious to her.




So I moved out before a friendship is lost.